Being Here – Day 35
Being Here – Poem Day 35
Poem – When I swing between defending and giving in – Reflecting
Today’s poem sits alongside yesterday’s functional poem.
It doesn’t regulate or settle anything.
Instead, it stays close to a familiar inner movement:
the swing between holding firm and giving way — sometimes clear, sometimes confusing, sometimes exhausting.
This fluctuation isn’t framed as inconsistency or failure.
It’s named as something that can happen when pressure, care, and self-protection meet.
Nothing is resolved here.
Nothing is stabilised.
The poem simply offers recognition — a way of seeing the movement itself without needing to land on one side.
If anything lingers or feels activating after listening, you might try one small thing — only if it feels helpful; Feel the edge of where you are sitting, and stay there for a moment.
Nothing else is required.
Reading is enough.
Warmly,
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Poem – When I swing between defending and giving in – Reflecting
There are moments when holding your ground feels essential.
And other moments when it feels easier to step aside.
The shift between these positions can be quick.
One situation invites firmness.
The next calls for accommodation.
From the inside, this movement can feel confusing.
Am I being too rigid? Too yielding?
Why can’t I find a middle place and stay there?
Often, both responses carry purpose.
Defending arises when something feels threatened.
Giving in appears when connection, peace, or safety feels more important.
Neither comes from nowhere.
Both are shaped by experience, by past consequences,
by what has felt possible in similar moments before.
The mind may search for consistency.
A stable rule to follow. A clear identity to inhabit.
But lived boundaries are rarely static.
They respond to context, to power, to timing,
to how much support is present.
Swinging between protecting and yielding doesn’t mean you lack clarity.
It often means you are navigating competing needs in real time.
Recognising this doesn’t resolve the movement. It doesn’t fix the oscillation.
It simply allows the experience to be seen with more honesty,
without turning it into failure or demanding it settle into one side.
